Welcome to Tanner Tracks...your quarterly online newsletter from Tanner Employee Assistance Program. Each issue provides information to help you better deal with personal, family or work-related concerns.

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Relationships: Secrets of Happy Couples

Although more than 50% of all marriages end in divorce, many couples defy these odds and maintain lasting, healthy relationships. What makes these relationships endure? Psychologist Florence Kaslow offers the following:

• Healthy couples see themselves as strong individuals, but they find that being a couple makes them happier. They believe that by acting together they are stronger than they would be as separate individuals.
• They share power. Sometimes one partner takes charge, and sometimes the other, depending upon who is more suited for the situation.
• They are not afraid to quarrel because they have the confidence that their relationship can survive occasional outbursts.
• They try to take a positive attitude toward conflicts. When interests diverge or clash, they negotiate a solution that benefits the couple, without taking the attitude that one person is giving up something for the sake of the other.
• They accept the fact that there will be some areas of disagreement, and they try to live with these differences.
• They give each other some independence and privacy, allowing each other to have outside friendships and activities without jealousy.
• They take interest in each other's jobs and activities.
• One person does not fear that the other will change. In fact, they view personal change as good for the relationship because it keeps things interesting.
• Their personal relationship is independent of their relationships to their parents and their children. They do not allow their feelings for other family members to govern their personal relationship.
• They share all emotions, sorrow as well as happiness.
• They don’t assume that life has to be rosy all the time.

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If you need help with a particularly difficult marriage, relationship or family issue, your EAP can assist you with FREE and CONFIDENTIAL counseling, referrals or information. If you need help, why not call a professional EAP counselor today? We're here to help you.